I’ve been coaching for a few years now, and the biggest thing I’ve learnt – both for me and for my clients – is that inner confidence is the key to it all.
There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behaviour and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself, but they’re all redundant if the
foundation isn’t there.
That foundation is the real you, the you that you know deep down you are. The trick is that it takes confidence to find that and to bring out who you are –
here are the three keys to real inner confidence.
Get To Know Your Values
Personal values are a big passion of mine and I often get carried away with myself when I talk about them.
I make no apology for that though – they’re one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are vital in getting genuine inner confidence.
Your values are ten thousand feet down inside you, right at the very core of who you are, and they’re the building blocks, the foundations and cornerstones for you.
A value is something in yourself, in others or in the world that’s most important to you, and could include things like respect, progress, family, fun, nature, achievement or freedom.
Why is it that some people and situations leave you feeling angry, frustrated, demotivated or deflated?
It’s because one or more of your values is being denied, suppressed or repressed – and we experience that as a negative experience because it’s denying a fundamental piece of who you are.
You know those times when you’ve felt really alive, amazing or buzzing? Those are the times when one or more of your values are being honoured, and you can get more of that by living according to them.
Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens nobody can ever take them away. You can have absolute confidence in them because they’re there all the time just waiting for you to notice them and use them.
When you get to know your values you can start to make choices and align your life around them – it’s so simple and it feels amazing because all that really means is that you’re allowing who you are to live in the real world.
People spend too much time looking for signs that they’re doing the right thing or on the right path.
Sometimes we get that by hearing that we’re doing well at work, sometimes it could be encouragement from a friend or loved one, and sometimes we get that feedback by seeing our material wealth or possessions growing.
But rather than looking on the outside for those signs,
how about looking on the inside at what you’re telling yourself?
How about trusting yourself to do the best thing and make great choices?Halaman: 1 2 3